Quotes from Brene Brown

define calm as creating perspective and mindfulness while managing emotional reactivity. When I think about calm people, I think about people who can bring perspective to complicated situations and feel their feelings without reacting to heightened emotions like fear and anger.

Also, don't forget one of our favorite rumble tools: the time-out. When rumbles become unproductive, call a time-out. Give everyone ten minutes to walk around outside or catch their breath. In

to the conspiratorial mind, shit never just happens,' the complexities of human life are reduced to produce theories that are 'always consoling in their simplicity

I woke up with one of the worst vulnerability hangovers of my life. You know that feeling when you wake up and everything feels fine until the memory of laying yourself open washes over you and you want to hide under the covers? What did I do?

Se eu tivesse que escolher uma forma de traição que tenha aparecido com muita frequência em minha pesquisa e que tenha se mostrado a mais perigosa em termos de corrosão do elo de confiança em um relacionamento, eu mencionaria o descompromisso.

We use our spare time to desperately search for joy and meaning in our lives. We think accomplishments and acquisitions will bring joy and meaning, but that pursuit could be the very thing that's keeping us so tired and afraid to slow down.

Fess up to experiencing shame or admit that you're a sociopath. Quick note: This is the only time that shame seems like a good option.

Trusting myself or other people is a vulnerable and courageous process.

Heroics is often about putting our life on the line. Ordinary courage is about putting our vulnerability on the line. In today's world, that's pretty extraordinary.1

being very clear about what's acceptable and what's not acceptable.

Just because you're standing in your office or your classroom or your studio doesn't mean that you can take emotion out of this process. You cannot. (P.8)

Madeleine L'Engle: "When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability.

Mindfulness requires that we not be 'over-identified' with thoughts and feelings, so that we are caught up and swept away by negative reactivity.

We cannot selectively numb emotions. When we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.

I finally realized that trying to outrun and outsmart vulnerability and pain is choosing a life defined by suffering and exhaustion.

we want to fully experience love and belonging, we must believe that we are worthy of love and belonging.

Too many lonely and secret lives.

I'm just grateful that I can find and feel the edges today. I love that saying, "The center will hold." I believe that in the midst of struggle, the center will hold if, and only if, we can feel the edges.

cultivating the courage to be imperfect, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable;

The prerequisite for real empathy is compassion. We can only respond empathically if we are willing to be present to someone's pain.

nurture cultures and conditions that allow good people to do what they do best,

spirituality—the belief in connection, a power greater than self, and interconnections grounded in love and compassion

elements of trust emerged from our data, and we use the acronym BRAVING: Boundaries: You respect my boundaries, and when you're not clear about what's okay and not okay, you ask. You're willing to say no. Reliability: You do what you say you'll do. At work, this means staying aware of your competencies and limitations

On the inside I was really thinking, Who has time for painting and scrapbooking and photography when the real work of achieving and accomplishing needs to be done?