Quotes from Brene Brown

Rubin, Happier at Home

there are many truths and there are many ways of knowing. Each discovery contributes to our knowledge, and each way of knowing deepens our understanding and adds another dimension to our view of the world….For

we are wired for connection. It's in our biology. From the time we are born, we need connection to thrive emotionally, physically, spiritually, and intellectually

What makes a college of social work a unique laboratory for rumbling is the expectation that we must have uncomfortable conversations if we're going to work to empower people and change systems.

In terms of teaching our children to dare greatly in the "never enough" culture, the question isn't so much "Are you parenting the right way?" as it is: "Are you the adult that you want your child to grow up to be?

At work, we need to support healthy rumbles with vulnerability, to respect boundaries, and to practice calm in the sea of anxiety.

The counterapproach to living in scarcity is not about abundance. In fact, I think abundance and scarcity are two sides of the same coin. The opposite of "never enough" isn't abundance or "more than you could ever imagine." The opposite of scarcity is enough, or what I call Wholeheartedness. As I explained in the Introduction, there are many

But I'm learning that the process of struggling and navigating hurt has as much to offer us as the process of being brave and showing up.

perspective is a function of experience.

Vulnerability is the core of all emotions and feelings. To feel is to be vulnerable.

Heroics is often about putting our life on the line. Ordinary courage is about putting our vulnerability on the line.

Love and belonging are essential to the human experience. As I conducted my interviews, I realized that only one thing separated the research participants who felt a deep sense of love and belonging from the people who seem to be struggling for it. That one thing is the belief in their worthiness. It's as simple and complicated as this: If we want to fully experience love and belonging, we must believe that we are worthy of love and belonging.

I've seen Ellen turn a boring day into a fully choreographed song and dance routine to the Wicked soundtrack,

Permanence can be tough for me, so I've developed the habit of asking myself, "I'm really scared, worried, overwhelmed, stressed about what's happening. Will this issue be a big deal in five minutes? Five hours? Five days? Five months? Five years?

Society has taught us that vulnerability is synonymous with weakness—but it's just the opposite. Vulnerability is the willingness to show up and be seen by others in the face of uncertain outcomes. There's not a single act of courage that doesn't involve vulnerability.

Sometimes choosing being real over being liked is all about playing it unsafe.

The perception that vulnerability is weakness is the most widely accepted myth about vulnerability and the most dangerous.

Even in the context of suffering—poverty, violence, human rights violations—not belonging in our families is still one of the most dangerous hurts. That's because it has the power to break our heart, our spirit, and our sense of self-worth.

The bottom line is that we need each other. And not just the civilized, proper, convenient kind of need. Not one of us gets through this life without expressing desperate, messy, and uncivilized need. The kind we are reminded of when we come face-to-face with someone who is in a deep struggle.

You might say "I love you" every day, but when's the last time you had a serious conversation with someone about the meaning of love?

She said, "Let your face speak what's in your heart. When they walk in the room my face says I'm glad to see them. It's just as small as that, you see?

Cruelty is cheap, easy, and rampant. It's also chicken-shit.

One reason empathy and compassion are so powerful is the fact that they say to someone, "I can hear this. This is hard, but I can be in this space with you.

I believe that owning our worthiness is the act of acknowledging that we are sacred.