Quotes from Dale Carnegie

I have quit telling people they are wrong. And I find that it pays.

Don't criticise them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.

For "the great aim of education," said Herbert Spencer, "is not knowledge but action." And

Many people begin their criticism with sincere praise followed by the word but, which signals that the criticism is about to begin. This may make the listener questions the sincerity of the praise. Use and instead, and provide constructive advice rather than criticism. this is possibly the most effective ways to address an issue in written form without seeming false in your praise.

King George V had a set of six maxims displayed on the walls of his study at Buckingham Palace. One of these maxims said: 'Teach me neither to proffer nor receive cheap praise.

was proud of them because he himself had painted them. The order for the seats amounted to $90,000. Who do you suppose got the order—James Adamson or one of his competitors? From the time of this story until Mr. Eastman's death

Thus the sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if our cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there. …

Le monde est plein d'individus avides et égoïstes. C'est pourquoi l'être exceptionnel qui s'efforce de servir autrui généreusement et sans arrière-pensée possède un énorme avantage sur le reste de l'humanité, car il ne rencontre guère de concurrence.

Except How to win friends and influence people, I am looking for a kind of book like that

most of our so-called reasoning consists in finding arguments for going on believing as we already do.

Letting the other person feel that the idea is his or hers not only works in business and politics, it works in family life as well.

Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.

Now, if we stop thinking about ourselves for a while and begin to think of the other person's good points, we won't have to resort to flattery so cheap and false that it can be spotted almost before it is out of the mouth.

George Bernard Shaw was right. He summed it all up when he said: "The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not.

Trate siempre de que la otra persona se sienta importante.

I have no right to say or do anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him, but what he thinks of himself. Hurting a man in his dignity is a crime.

Recordemos que Emerson dijo: Todos los hombres que encuentro son superiores a mí en algún sentido; y en tal sentido puedo aprender de todos.

People who talk only of themselves think only of themselves. And those people who think only of themselves, Dr. Nicholas Murray Butler, longtime president of Columbia University, said, are hopelessly uneducated. They are not educated, said Dr. Butler, no matter how instructed they may be.

Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions. It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.

Alfred Adler, the famous Viennese psychologist, wrote a book entitled What Life Should Mean to You. In that book he says: "It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others.

There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it.

When we treat man as he is, we make him worse than he is; when we treat him as if he already were what he potentially could be, we make him what he should be.

The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding—this was my reward to you for being a boy. It was not that I did not love you; it was that I expected too much of youth. I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.

Cut out modifiers. Cut out connectives. Begin with words that demand attention. "End with words that deserve distinction," says Prof. Barrett Wendell.