Quotes About Healing

She still loved him, she would always love him, but it was the kind of love that was muted, safely seen through the rear-view window, like a place you used to call home but no longer visited. There would always be a wound there, but the healing had begun.

Hope was like a wound, and, if not properly cared for, it festered. It turned sour and acrid.

I'm terrified. But for the first time in many months, I don't want to throw up. I don't want to cut myself. I just want to be. I just want to exist in the moment, the unbearable moment, because I can finally accept who I am. I can be proud of what I created.

Schuyler kept count, thinking that maybe once she hit a magical number, it would stop hurting.

A breakup is the single most traumatic event in the life of a woman outside of a death. Some women can take years to recover.

Because if anything can make death feel like a truly desirable alternative, it's getting dumped.

Sometimes someone just takes a sledgehammer to your heart and even if you still have feelings for them, you can't ever quite feel the way you used to. The innocent part is all gone.

A jagged stone existed where her heart had been.

Taking care of myself is a big job. No wonder I avoided it for so long. —ANONYMOUS

Denial can be confusing because it resembles sleeping. We're not really aware we're doing it until we're done doing it. Forcing ourselves—or anyone else—to face the truth usually doesn't help. We won't face the facts until we are ready. Neither, it seems, will anyone else. We may admit to the truth for a moment, but we won't let ourselves know what we know until we feel safe, secure, and prepared enough to deal and cope with it.

Today, I will not wait for others to see and care; I will take responsibility for being aware of my pain and problems, and caring about myself.

I want to thank each person who has the courage to push through and past the set of coping behaviors we've come to label as codependency—who learn what it means to take care of themselves. "Nobody taught me how to take care of myself," a fifty-year-old woman told me recently. "I didn't have enough money to go to therapy, but I had enough to buy a book.

Recovery is not only fun, it is simple. It is not always easy, but it is simple. It is based on a premise many of us have forgotten or never learned: Each person is responsible for him- or herself. It involves learning one new behavior that we will devote ourselves to: taking care of ourselves.

People and things don't stop our pain or heal us. In recovery, we learn that this is our job, and we can do it by using our resources: ourselves, our Higher Power, our support systems, and our recovery program.

God, help me let go of my need to deprive myself of being alive.

Taking care of myself is a big job. No wonder I avoided it for so long.

I don't think love has to hurt as much as it did in the past. I don't think we have to allow love to hurt us as much as it has. We certainly don't have to let it destroy us.

Don't give up hope. It took many of us twenty years or more to acquire these protective behaviors we umbrella with the word codependency. It may take as much time as that to let go of them.

Today, God, help me to know that it is okay to allow myself to be human. Help me not to feel guilty or punish myself when I need to "fall apart.

Even recovery brings losses, more changes we must struggle to accept.

I feel more passionately about the importance of healing from our abuse issues. I feel more passionately. I've become more spontaneous, embraced my femininity, and learned new lessons along the way—about boundaries, flexibility, and owning my power. And about love. I'm learning to respect men. My relationships have deepened. Some have changed.

Don't let the heartbreaks of the past cause you to become cynical, close you off to life's magic and promise. Open yourself wide to all that the universe has to say. Let yourself begin anew.

Not acknowledging our feelings is what keeps us stuck and gives us stomachaches, headaches, and heartburn.

Not only can we lovingly detach from other people and take care of ourselves, it is our primary responsibility in life to do that. To