Quotes About Healing

I know from experience that you spend your tears on the big hurts, not the little day-to-day jabs." -Star

In terms of helping me heal my mind and heart, Dr. Artaud is good, but music is better. She's right when she says that I hide behind music. I sometimes let sound get physical, so that it rings in my ears, and vibrates in my chest and drowns out the unhappy voices in my head. Other times, like right now, music helps me respond to my better voices, the ones that give me a squeeze to the shoulders and a gentle push ahead." -Star

As great poets do, he found a way to transmute the personal wound into something larger.

What is healing, but a shift in perspective?

Judy, of course, doesn't stand in the ruins; she is the ruin. In this way she enthralled a generation of gay men, singing her way out of suffering while still bearing the inescapable marks of damage.

Developmental trauma occurs when "emotional pain cannot find a relational home in which it can be held."1 In retrospect, I can see that this was the case for

When we stop distancing ourselves from the pain in the world, our own or others, we create the possibility of a new experience, one that often surprises because of how much joy, connection, or relief it yields. Destruction may continue, but humanity shines through.

Trauma, if it doesn't destroy us, wakes us up both to our own relational capacities and to the suffering of others. Not only does it makes us hurt, it makes us more human, caring, and wise.

WILL'S RULES FOR LIVING #5: HEALING TAKES MUCH LONGER THAN YOU THINK. THE BIGGEST SCARS YOU CARRY AREN'T THE ONES YOU CAN SEE.

she needed someone to hold her, but she couldn't bring herself to ask her husband, not after what she had done to him.

Something worth loving. But she could not love him as long as she hated herself. Her past wouldn't allow it.

Money could not make the rape go away. The physical pain was gone, but the mental pain would never leave Hannah Steele.

An ounce of apology is worth a pound of resentment

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." —MAHATMA GANDHI

Requesting forgiveness: Don't do this immediately, because actions speak louder than words. To truly earn forgiveness, you need to sustain your corrective actions until they become part of who you are. At this point—and not before—go back to the person you've hurt and say, "Are you able to forgive me for hurting you?

To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it." —CONFUCIUS

Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note—torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one." —HENRY WARD BEECHER

We forgive when we no longer need to blame; we forget when we no longer need to remember.

God can handle your scars. So can any genuine, loving Christian.

Church is the place to be broken together.

If you learn to view food as instructions that influence every aspect of your biology, and learn to combine that knowledge with the joy of cooking, there will be only pleasure and healing.

Instead of revenge, transcend.

As psychologist James Hillman reminds us, "Our lives are determined less by our childhood than by the traumatic way we have learned to remember our childhoods.

El pasado duele solo si dejamos que nos alcance