Quotes from Henry Cloud

We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children's most primitive fears.

I'm not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are some very, very positive things about the state of integrity in church leaders.

Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.

Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.

A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.

The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

Encourage literally came from "in courage." The courage is put "into" you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.

Closed systems run down and get more chaotic over time. Always get better by being 'open' to outside energy and templates of better ways to function.

A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word 'no.' Love respects 'no,' control does not.

The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!

In a very real way, ownership is the essence of leadership. When you are ridiculously in charge, then you own whatever happens in a company, school, et cetera.

The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.

The power of being in the physical presence of another person delivers real benefits.

For someone's character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.

Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something's time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.

Dating should be a part of your life, not your life a part of dating. There is more to life than finding a date.

We all make mistakes, but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.

Leaders set a very clear path every day, in a thousand different ways, of what the people must attend to, inhibit, and keep it current in front of them.

The best way to advance in a career is to get great results while working with people.

The opposite of bad is not good.The opposite of bad is love

Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.

The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.

Every human being must have boundaries in order to have successful relationships or a successful performance in life.