Quotes from Henry Cloud

Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.

Don't use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and don't worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.

If people are really narcissistic or have a need to be seen as more than they really are, or to be admired as having it all together, then they cannot be followed and trusted by others.

In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: what you create and what you allow.

Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to have influence over their lives.

The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

When truth presents itself, the wise person see the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments. The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

We know from research that growth is actually contagious, so if you want to reach your goals, you've got to get around people that are going in the same direction you want to be going, and you will catch the success.

The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present.

As a psychologist, I can tell you that there are people who look very good in a group, but they're very different in a one-on-one situation.

You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.

If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.

People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari - like they're trying to land the trophy.

Part of executive functions is the ability to look to a goal deadline and assess where an organization is in meeting it.

What happens with a lot of leaders is that their leadership style is like ADD; they are all over the place with different ideas. They could be driving one idea forward but then move on to something else too soon.

I think that God will provide opportunities and people and experiences, and everything we need to date and ultimately to find the one.

I do believe there are things that we desire that are not in the cards. But more often than not, when people have a desire for a relationship and it's not happening, there are probably issues to be resolved and issues people could work on that would ultimately end in that desire being fulfilled.

Things don't change in a marriage until the spouse who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not hers decides to say or do something about it.

In both our personal and professional lives, there are times when reality dictates that we must stand up and 'end' something. Either its time has passed, its season is over, or worse, continuing it would be destructive in some way.

Some people's developmental path has not equipped them to stand up and let go of something.

Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.

If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.

A person who hasn't grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.

I fell in love with the topic of leadership. For three decades, that has been a major focus of my hands-on work: listening to and working with leaders, their teams and their organizations.