Quotes from Brene Brown

Evolution and incremental change is important and we need it, but we're desperate for real revolution and that requires a different type of courage and creativity.

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We must be guardians of a space that allows students to breathe and be curious and explore the world and be who they are without suffocation. They deserve one place where they can rumble with vulnerability and their hearts can exhale.

breath for a count of four—one, two, three, four. The breathing method many therapists and mindfulness practitioners

Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: "Who has earned the right to hear my story?

Are we willing to show up and be seen when we can't control the outcome?

Why do we cause each other so much pain, and why do we turn away from hurt when the only way to the other side of struggle is through it? I don't know why it's so hard to understand—I've been known to run from vulnerability like someone is chasing me. Granted, not very often anymore. It just takes so much more energy and creates so much more emotional churn than having a seat and asking hurt or uncertainty to pull up a chair.

When we don't have these skills, small disappointments can grow into hopelessness and despair.

Our fight or flight strategies are effective for survival, not for reasoning or connection

Fitting in emerges as the primary barrier to belonging.

I don't know. I really don't. All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It keeps me out of judgment and lets me focus on what is, and not what should or could be.

the need for control is so strong that we'd rather have something be our fault than succumb to the bumper-sticker wisdom of "shit happens.

Both disappointment and regret arise when an outcome was not what we wanted, counted on, or thought would happen.

connection with others can only be as deep as our connection with ourselves. If I don't know and understand who I am and what I need, want, and believe, I can't share myself with you.

Exploit fears by photoshopping a picture of yesteryear to be everything people wanted it to be (but never was), seduce people into believing that a make-believe past could exist again, and give them someone to blame for ruining the picture and/or not being able to restore the mythical utopia.

If we can't handle uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure in a way that aligns with our values and furthers our organizational goals, we can't lead.

if we want freedom from perfectionism, we have to make the long journey from "What will people think?" to "I am enough." That journey begins with shame resilience, self-compassion, and owning our stories.

These are narrowed down to: Date: Meeting intention: Attendees: Key decisions: Tasks and ownership:

Desperate times call for desperate measures, and desperate measures are often fertilized with bullshit.

if we don't follow through with appropriate consequences, people learn to dismiss our requests—even if they sound like threats or ultimatums. If we ask

Heart is sea, language is shore. Whatever sea includes, will hit the shore. — RUMI

Belonging is being somewhere where you want to be, and they want you. Fitting in is being somewhere where you really want to be, but they don't care one way or the other. Belonging is being accepted for you. Fitting in is being accepted for being like everyone else. I get to be me if I belong. I have to be like you to fit in.

Shame resilience is the ability to practice authenticity when we experience shame, to move through the experience without sacrificing our values, and to come out on the other side of the shame experience with more courage, compassion, and connection than we had going into it. Ultimately, shame resilience is about moving from shame to empathy—the real antidote to shame.

we spend an unreasonable amount of time managing problematic behaviors.