Quotes from Brene Brown

there are studies that identify shame as the dominant emotion experienced by mental health clients, exceeding anger, fear, grief and anxiety.

Perfection is about the furthest thing in the world from badassery.

Ordinarily, when we reach out and share ourselves--our fears, hopes, struggles, and joy--we create small sparks of connection. Our shared vulnerability creates light in normally dark places.

um dos meios mais eficientes de abandonar o perfeccionismo é começar a criar.

Cultivating meaningful connection is a daring and vulnerable practice that requires grounded confidence, the courage to walk alongside others, and story stewardship.

We all have to find our own way deep into the wild.

I'm so much better at being angry than I am at being hurt or disappointed or scared.

Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.

We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can't have both.

If we want to be fully engaged, to be connected, we have to be vulnerable. In order to be vulnerable, we need to develop resilience to shame.

Asking for help is a power move. It's a sign of strength to ask and a sign of strength to fight off judgment when other people raise their hands. It reflects a self-awareness that is an essential element in braving trust.

Mean and nasty is my default setting. It doesn't take courage for me to be shaming back. I can use my shame superpowers for evil in a split second. Letting myself feel hurt—that's a totally different story. I think your default is my courage.

Cultivating authenticity: letting go of

To let ourselves sink into the joyful moments of our lives even though we know that they are fleeting, even though the world tells us not to be too happy lest we invite disaster—that's an intense form of vulnerability.

I'm not here so my business self can talk to their business selves. I'm here to talk from my heart to their hearts. This is who I am.

It's easy to attack and criticize someone while he or she is risk- taking—voicing an unpopular opinion or sharing a new creation with the world or trying something new that he or she hasn't quite mastered. Cruelty is cheap, easy, and rampant. It's also chicken-shit. Especially when you attack and criticize anonymously—like technology allows so many people to do these days.

We must learn how to respond to ourselves with empathy and understanding. It takes a lot of work to stay out of judgment about others—it takes even more work to stay out of self-judgment.

According to research, confusion has the potential to motivate, lead to deep learning, and trigger problem solving.

Honest conversations about shame can change the way we live, love, parent, work, and build relationships. We have thousands of letters and emails from readers that all say the same thing: "I can't believe how much just naming and talking about shame changed my life!

Who do you call to work through the mean-nasties or the cry 'n' hides or the people-pleasing? 4. What's the most courageous thing you could do for yourself when you feel small and hurt?

We help each other reality-check our expectations, we ask each other a lot of questions about what we think will happen or what we want to happen, and we often ask ourselves and each other: What's this about? What are you not saying?

Laura's courage is acknowledging hurt without running from it, and my courage is acknowledging hurt and not hurting back. We also agreed that cruelty is never brave—it's mostly cheap and easy, especially in today's culture.

Shame and humiliation will never be effective social justice tools.

comparing ourselves to others leads us to fear, anger, shame, and sadness.