Quotes About Guidance

Part of truly loving our kids, and giving them what they need, means offering them clear and consistent boundaries, creating predictable structure in their lives, as well as having high expectations for them.

If the leaders of a culture are themselves devoid of mindsight, then the young, emerging minds of that culture will be living in a world in which the blind are leading the blind.

Your job as a parent is not to prevent them from experiencing setbacks and failures, but to give them the tools and emotional resilience they need to weather life's storms, and then to walk beside them through those storms.

Rather than simply telling them what to do and demanding that they conform to your requests, you'll be giving them experiences that strengthen their executive functions and develop skills related to empathy, personal insight, and morality.

By helping them understand the rules and limits in their respective environments, we help build their conscience.

You can use all of the interactions you share—the stressful, angry ones as well as the miraculous, adorable ones—as opportunities to help them become the responsible, caring, capable people you want them to be.

Para nosotros, imponer disciplina se reduce a una simple frase: conectar y redirigir. Nuestra primera respuesta debe ser siempre ofrecer conexión tranquilizadora; a continuación podemos redirigir conductas. Incluso cuando decimos «no» al comportamiento de los niños, siempre hemos de decir «sí» a sus emociones y a su manera de experimentar las cosas.

NUESTRA DISCIPLINA SE BASA EN EL CASTIGO Y NO EN LA ENSEÑANZA El propósito de la disciplina no es asegurarnos de que cada infracción tenga su correspondiente castigo. El objetivo real es enseñar a los niños a vivir bien en el mundo. Sin

CREEMOS QUE SI ESTAMOS IMPONIENDO DISCIPLINA, NO PODEMOS SER AFECTUOSOS Y ACOGEDORES Mientras impones disciplina a tu hijo, puedes estar perfectamente tranquilo, además de mostrarte cálido y cariñoso. De hecho, es importante combinar límites claros y coherentes con empatía afectuosa. No subestimes el poder de un tono amable de voz cuando mantienes con tu hijo una conversación sobre la conducta que quieres cambiar. En

CONFUNDIMOS COHERENCIA CON RIGIDEZ «Coherencia» significa trabajar a partir de una filosofía fiable y congruente para que los niños sepan qué esperamos de ellos. Esto no significa mantener una inquebrantable devoción a algún conjunto arbitrario de reglas. Así, a veces puedes hacer excepciones a las reglas, hacer la vista gorda ante alguna infracción menor o ser más permisivo.

You won't always be able to discipline in a way that both connects and redirects.

When we say to embrace emotions, we mean that during redirection, parents need to help their kids understand that their feelings are neither good nor bad, neither valid nor invalid. They simply are. There's nothing wrong with getting angry, being sad, or feeling so frustrated that you want to destroy something. But saying it's OK to feel like destroying something doesn't mean it's OK to actually do it.

when we need to say no to their behavior and redirect them toward appropriate action.

Essentially, we want caregivers to begin to think of discipline as one of the most loving and nurturing things we can do for kids.

Podemos ejercer un impacto en el futuro del mundo ocupándonos debidamente de nuestros hijos y ofreciéndoles de manera intencionada los tipos de relación que valoramos y queremos que consideren normales. Preparar

remember how important it is to discipline this one child in this one moment.

So when children feel furious, dejected, ashamed, embarrassed, overwhelmed, or out of control in any other way, that's when we need to be there for them. Through connection, we can soothe their internal storm, help them calm down, and assist them in making better decisions

Qué es lo más importante que puedo hacer por mis hijos para ayudarlos a salir adelante y a sentirse a gusto en el mundo?

at other times we need to adjust our expectations and realize that our children are capable of more than we're asking of them, so we can challenge them to take more responsibility for their choices.

You can do your kids a lot of good simply by asking, "What are some ideas you have to make it better and solve this problem?" Given the chance once they're calm, kids will usually do the right thing, and learn in the process.

añadiremos que casi todas las preguntas y dilemas con respecto a la labor de los padres se circunscriben a la idea de relación, así que en eso vamos a centrarnos aquí.

So don't think of discipline as a one-size-fits-all solution. Instead, remember how important it is to discipline this one child in this one moment.

Mindsight is the basis of social and emotional intelligence, and we can model this for our children as we help guide the development of their changing brains.

Part of truly loving our kids, and giving them what they need, means offering them clear and consistent boundaries, creating predictable structure in their lives, as well as having high expectations for them. Children need to understand the way the world works: what's permissible and what's not.