Quotes About Healing

While we are in recovery we need to be able to strike a balance between not allowing our ego to do all the talking and not letting our low self-esteem to only present what is wrong with us.

We must do away with any shred of denial, minimization, justification, or rationalization. To recover, we must completely and totally understand and accept the truth that addiction creates suffering.

We must not confuse letting go of past injuries with feeling an obligation to let the injurers back into our life. The freedom of forgiveness often includes a firm boundary and loving distance from those who have harmed us. As my father likes to say, We can let them back into our hearts without ever letting them back into our house.

It's much easier to get over someone if you can delude yourself into thinking you never really cared that much.

I think you often have that sense when you write-that if you can spot something in yourself and set it down on paper, you're free of it. And you're not, of course; you've just managed to set it down on paper, that's all.

I fly to New York to see my shrink. I walk into her office and burst into tears. I tell her what my husband has done to me. I tell her my heart is broken. I tell her I'm a total mess and I will never be the same. I can't stop crying. She looks at me and says, "You have to understand something: You were going to leave him eventually.

Because if I tell the story, I control the version. Because if I tell the story, I can make you laugh, and I would rather have you laugh at me than feel sorry for me. Because if I tell the story, it doesn't hurt as much. Because if I tell the story, I can get on with it.

One good thing I'd like to say about divorce is that it sometimes makes it possible for you to be a much better wife to your next husband because you have a place for your anger; it's not directed at the person you're currently with.

Love can really screw you up before you learn to live with it.

When somebody walks out, it leaves a hole in you. Some people fill it up, the good and the bad, and get on that way. Some people leave it open, maybe long enough to heal, maybe too long, picking at it now and then so it doesn't heal all the way.

You didn't hurt me, the situation did. And now that I know why I felt that way, it won't hurt.

It's not an exaggeration to say that they saved my life. Ray Quinn, then Cam and Ethan and Phil. They turned their world around for me, and because of it, turned mine around with it. Anna and Grace and Sybill, Aubrey too. They made a home for me, and nothing that happened before matters nearly as much as everything that came after.

Love's the glue. Use it right, it can fix most anything.

It was amazing, really, just how much pain the human heart could hold.

Every one can master a grief but he that has it. —William Shakespeare

Love, as he knew too well, could slice you to pieces and leave no visible scar.

You're angry with me becuase you care about me. This water's too hot, she said when she tested it. No,it isn't.And I'm not angry with you at t'all. Murmuring to the gelding, he lay the heated flannel over the abscess. A bit with myself, maybe, but it's more satisfying to take it out on you.

Intellectually, she knew no one really died of a broken heart. Emotionally, she suspected some could.

It hurts now, and the pain's real, so hugs, my treasure. But give it a few weeks, and you'll realize he's just another asshole. Kick butt and namaste.

When people break your heart, pride's all you've got left.

When people break your heart, pride's all you've got left. And pride, could turn cold and bitter without heart.

I don't know if it helps, but I know when we lost Dad, we were all just numb, I guess. Just taking a step at a time dealing with all the horrible, practical things you have to deal with. Eventually you find yourself in another place. Some of it's familiar, some of it's not. You make something else out of it, and you know you couldn't have without the person you lost.

Then she remembered what her mother called heart-sleep. That sleep a wounded heart needed to help it heal. She rubbed the ring and medal between her fingers.

Heal the mind, ease the heart.