Quotes About Healing

the goal is to bring unconscious material forward into the conscious mind so that patients no longer act on their powerful but unconscious needs.

Most white people enter therapy in order to gain better control of their lives, or as one healer put it, "to stickhandle through life." Indigenous healing is instead about connecting with the spirit world in a meaningful way and achieving harmony. Whereas

I was beginning to see that it didn't matter at all if I knew what was wrong with a client. The art of therapy is getting the client to see it.

Almost all abusive parenting is based on generations of the same; those who are abusive were likely themselves abused. That's why there are no villains in these cases, but rather layers of dysfunction to unravel.

therapy wasn't about truth; as Jack Nicholson famously shouted in A Few Good Men, sometimes people "can't handle the truth." Rather, it's a matter of getting your unconscious to stop controlling your conscious mind. Effective therapy is about lowering your defences so that you can deal with the issues that arise in your life.

People who've suffered that degree of trauma are often irreversibly impaired ... I had to accept the fact that there'd be some residual damage. If babies are starved and fed later, their bones will always show the traces of the lack of food. The same is true of severe abuse. The brain will adapt in strange ways, but it won't ever be fully normal, whatever that means.

True insights happen only when the therapist gets out of the way so that the patient is able to gain his or her own psychological knowledge.

If you point out a "truth," for want of a better word, to patients before they're able to hear or admit it, they lose trust in the therapist; their defences take over, and they improve only superficially. Overinterpreting to the client is the sign of a new or insecure therapist. A therapist can lead patients to the door of understanding, but they shouldn't drag them in. Their patients will enter when they're ready.

One of the big risks in treating depersonalization—the condition where one loses all sense of identity—is what happens when that person regains a sense of self.

Rather, it's a matter of getting your unconscious to stop controlling your conscious mind. Effective therapy is about lowering your defences so that you can deal with the issues that arise in your life.

When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.

I know this is going to come as a shock to me, but I am leaving me. Perhaps I`ll say I could not have seen this coming, but truthfully things have been wrong between me for some time. Time heals and I`m sure in time I`ll build a new life without me

We do crazy shit because we're broken.

If it takes you apart, that's not love. Love puts you back together.

After all, the only thing that hurts more than tears shed is tears unshed.

They just want to kill the pain. Everybody just wants to kill the pain.

I loved pain, followed it, thought it would cleanse me, right my wrongs.

Maybe when you put tears away uncried, everything you cry about from that day on contains a little of those tears.

Everything grows best in oxygen and sunlight except secrets and guilt and regrets. They

Everything grows best in oxygen and sunlight except secrets and guilt and regrets. They like the dank spaces. Drag them out into the light and they fail to thrive.

This is what we do. We do crazy shit because we're broken. That's who we are. That's what we do.

So I guess the theme of this novel is, "Look for strength in unexpected places." Not only might you find it there, but it might be more beautiful and more hopeful than strength found anywhere else. Here's to strength and healing.

Maybe when you put tears away uncried, everything you cry about from that day on contains a little of those tears. Whether you wanted them released or not.

I'm not suggesting you need to welcome him back into your life with open arms as the years go by. Some people just plain aren't worth it. Whether this one is or isn't, that's for you to judge. I'm just advising you to let go of the hate in yourself, because you're the one swallowing that poison every day, not him." Ethan