Quotes About Healing

I may be more sparing with mention of my gang rape in the future. Although I enjoy baiting this bear, I don't enjoy his pain. Just his fire.

Some people fall apart when they get hurt," he says. "Puddle into apathy and despair and never recover. They wait all their lives for someone to come along and rescue them.

She's going to burn herself to ash if she doesn't find someone or something that takes her all the way down to ground zero and recharges her.

What no one tells you is that when someone you love dies, you lose them twice. Once to death, the second time to acceptance, and you don't walk that long, dark passage between the two alone. Grief takes every shuffling, unwilling step with you, offering a seductive bouquet of memories that can only blossom south of sanity. You can stay there, nose buried in the petals of the past. But you're never really alive again. Spend enough time with ghosts, you become one.

Some people—who haven't lost someone they love unconditionally and more than themselves—think a year is plenty of time to get over the trauma of their death and you should have fully moved on. Fuck you, it's not.

grief's drink recipe is two parts tribute to the person you loved and four parts feeling sorry for yourself because you lost them.

when you can't forgive

Your joy can fill you only as deeply your sorrow has carved you.

Time heals. No, it doesn't. At best, time is the great leveler, sweeping us all into coffins. We find ways to distract ourselves from the pain. Time is neither scalpel nor bandage. It is indifferent. Scar tissue is not a good thing. It is merely the wound's other face.

Comedy is pain plus time.

There's no shame in crying, you know. You've been so strong, my brave girl, but you don't have to be strong now. There's nobody here but you and me, and you've had a hell of a night. Actually, a hell of a few years. Cry all you want.

But if it turns out that she really can adjust them from without? Reshuffle the deck of his past, leave a few cards out, sub in several from a sunnier suit, where was the harm in that? Harm had to be the opposite, didn't it? Letting the earliest truth metastasize into something that might kill you? The gangrenous spread of one day throughout the life span of a body— wasn't that something worth stopping?

It's very possible and very okay to forgive someone and still not want to spend time with them

Just as physical wounds heal at different rates in different people, so do emotional wounds. Everyone has different needs and speeds.

Please do not become so hurt by life that when someone loving comes along, or something good happens, you resist allowing the love and joy in.

Time not only heals, time reveals

feeling means your dealing means your healing

Don't let the darkness of your past block the light of joy in your present. What happened is done. Stop giving time to things that no longer exist when there is so much joy to be found in the here and now.

If someone has harmed you, don't wish them ill -- wish for them to gain clarity! Hope that they will soon be able to fully see the pain they have caused you, as well as new ways of being and doing.

It is often your deepest pain which empowers you to grow to your highest self

Lord, hang on to me. I know I should be hanging on to you, but I'm not. The truth is, I feel too wounded and broken and angry and rebellious and hurt right now to hang on to you. So if I'm going to get through this at all, it's got to be up to you. See me through this, Lord, hang on, please hang on to me and don't let go.

Time could heal, but it wouldn't make wrongs go away. Time came back like a reminder. Time folded with memory. In a moment, everything could fold itself up, and time stand still.

Looks like they can't talk. Why not? War does that. You can't talk.

Moving on doesn't mean forgetting.