Quotes About Healing

If you put shame into a petri dish and douse it with these three things, it will grow exponentially into every corner and crevice of our lives. The antidote to shame is empathy. If we reach out and share our shame experience with someone who responds with empathy, shame dissipates.

Shame needs three things to grow out of control in our lives: secrecy, silence, and judgment. When something shaming happens and we keep it locked up, it festers and grows. It consumes us. We need to share our experience. Shame happens between people, and it heals between people.

Shame is a social emotion. Shame happens between people and it heals between people. Even if I feel it alone, shame is the way I see myself through someone else's eyes. Self-compassion is often the first step to healing shame—we need to be kind to ourselves before we can share our stories with someone else.

So the next time you're shutting down or angry, ask yourself what lies beneath.

Stop Beating Yourself Up

when we numb the dark, we also numb the light.

Shame is much more likely to be the cause of destructive behavior than the cure.

But I'm learning that the process of struggling and navigating hurt has as much to offer us as the process of being brave and showing up.

sadness is important and we need it. Feeling sad is a normal response to loss or defeat, or even the perception of loss or defeat. To be human is to know sadness.

Rather than being a tool for connection, sympathy emerged in the data as a form of disconnection. Sympathy is removed: When someone says, "I feel sorry for you" or "That must be terrible," they are standing at a safe distance. Rather than conveying the powerful "me too" of empathy, it communicates "not me," and then adds, "But I do feel for you." Sympathy is more likely to be a shame trigger than something that heals shame.

shame is much more likely to be the source of destructive behaviors than it is to be the solution.

É incrível a quantidade de energia que gastamos tentando evitar esses territórios difíceis da alma, quando eles são os únicos que podem nos libertar.

We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don't function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.

Grief does not obey your plans, or your wishes. Grief will do whatever it wants to you, whenever it wants to. In that regard, Grief has a lot in common with Love. — ELIZABETH GILBERT

Heartbreak comes from the loss of love or the perceived loss of love. My heart can be broken only by someone (or something, like my dog, though a part of me really believes my dog is a person) to whom I have given my heart.

The Center for Complicated Grief at Columbia is another tremendous resource.

There's a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in." THE

When a person adapts to a loss grief is not over." It doesn't mean that we're sad the rest of our lives, it means that "grief finds a place" in our lives.

Heartbreak is what happens when love is lost.

Worrying about scarcity is our culture's version of post-traumatic stress.

do together in the part on learning to rise, when we own our hard stories and rumble with them, we can write a new ending—an ending that includes how we're going to use what we've survived to be more compassionate and empathic. When we deny our stories of struggle, they own us. They own us, and they drive our behavior, emotions, thinking, and leading.

Who do you call to work through the mean-nasties or the cry 'n' hides or the people-pleasing? 4. What's the most courageous thing you could do for yourself when you feel small and hurt?

I do believe we can heal disappointment, but it's important not to underestimate the damage it inflicts on our spirit.

Trauma victims cannot recover until they become familiar with and befriend the sensations in their bodies. Being frightened means that you live in a body that is always on guard. Angry people live in angry bodies.