Quotes About Healing

Whenever a shame-based person feels his real feelings, he feels ashamed. So, to avoid that pain he numbs out.

You have no memories of painful events of your childhood; you have a split personality; you depersonalize; you can't remember people's names or even the people you were with two years ago. You are out of touch with your body and your feelings.

Feelings of excitement and curiosity become bound in shame, and the child's courage and enthusiasm are severely limited. Toxic shame takes on the face of apathy or cowardice at this stage. Describing the impact of her father's incest, the poet Mary Oliver writes in her poem "Rage": "And you see how the child grows—timidly, crouching in corners.

It tells you that you are responsible for other people's feelings and behavior; it may even tell you that your behavior made someone else sick, as when a father says, "Look what you kids have done, you've made your mother sick!" This results in your having a grandiose sense of responsibility. Toxic guilt is one of the most damaging ways your preschool inner child was wounded.

Adults who have a wounded inner child who failed to learn this lesson tend to be rigid and absolutist. They think in all-or-nothing extremes.

Toxic shame is soul murder. Because of it we become other-ated human doings, without an inner life and without inner peace. Shame-based people long for true inner serenity and peace. The spiritual life is an inner life. It cannot be attained on the outside. The spiritual life is its own reward and seeks nothing beyond itself. Once we achieve inner peace and conscious contact, we want to overflow.

The French novelist Léon Bloy once said, "There are places in the heart that do not yet exist; pain must be in order for them to be.

What I now understand is that when a child's development is arrested, when feelings are repressed, especially the feelings of anger and hurt, a person grows up to be an adult with an angry, hurt child inside [them]. This child will spontaneously contaminate the person's adult behavior.

Entonces una mano le entregó algunas hojas del árbol de la vida, que Cristiano tomó y puso en las heridas que había recibido en la batalla, y fue sanado de inmediato.

Past hurts can make you bitter or better—the choice is yours.

A cheerful heart is good medicine.

people who do not forgive are hurting themselves much more than they're hurting others.

people who do not forgive are hurting themselves much more than they're hurting others. A person who possesses this characteristic and keeps score in relationships is a person who is emotionally wired to carry all the stress that goes with carrying grudges.

Holding a grudge is never positive or appropriate.

Los puntos críticos pueden proveer perspectiva, que es la capacidad de ver los cambios mayores dentro del marco de una vida entera y dejar que actúe el poder sanador del tiempo.

He saw the role of the serious writer as both lofty and practical in the same instant. He used to say that literature was one of the first indications of civilization. He used to say that a fine piece of prose could not only cure a depression, it could clear up a sinus headache. Like many great healers, he meant to heal himself.

I would like to bring to people something like happiness. I would like to discover a method so that if I want it to rain, it will start right away to rain. If one of my friends is ill, I'd like to play a certain song and he will be cured; when he'd be broke, I'd bring out a different song and immediately he'd receive all the money he needed.

What was the use of having a father who could exorcise devils, who could give sleep to the tormented, if he could not heal his own child's wounded heart?

Music gets you through hard times, helps heal your heart, is always there on your good days and never leaves you alone on those bad days.

Well, you can't have heartbreak without love. If your heart was really broken, then at least you know you really loved him.

The only thing worse than a broken heart is knowing you would give him or her another chance.

Some people belong in your heart, but aren't mean't to remain apart of your life. Love them from a distance, but love yourself enough to not allow that person to continue causing you hurt, pain, & heartache.

Why is it that when I'm finally over you, you start talking to me or show up out of nowhere and I fall back to where I was before?

How many times does my head have to say I'm over it before my heart will jump on board?