Quotes About Empowerment

As long as we see abusers as victims, or as out-of-control monsters, they will continue getting away with ruining lives. If we want abusers to change, we will have to require them to give up the luxury of exploitation.

I wish I could somehow recover all those years I wasted waiting around for him to deal with his issues." Save yourself that sadness if you can, by insisting on nothing less than complete respect.

And you are not "enabling" your partner to mistreat you; he is entirely responsible for his own actions.

Alcohol cannot create an abuser, and sobriety cannot cure one. The only way a man can overcome his abusiveness is by dealing with his abusiveness. And you are not "enabling" your partner to mistreat you; he is entirely responsible for his own actions.

Your problem is not that you lose control of yourself, it's that you take control of your partner. In order to change, you don't need to gain control over yourself, you need to let go of control of her.

Free labor from her; leisure and freedom for him

Abused women aren't "codependent." It is abusers, not their partners, who create abusive relationships.

I can't solve his problems, and it's not my fault that he thinks I should.

One exercise that can help you address this trap involves making a list of all the ways, including emotional ones, in which you feel dependent on your partner, then making another list of big or small steps you might take to begin to become more independent. These lists can guide you in focusing your energy in the directions you need to go.

On those days when his nasty or rejecting side comes out first thing, tell yourself, "His coldness is his problem, not mine. He's the one who's missing out. I'm not going to let him ruin my day.

Kay Douglas's book is the most supportive, realistic, and practical guide for abused women that I have encountered. A woman with this book in her hands is on the path to a new life. The author really 'gets it' about what it takes to deal with a destructive partner and takes the reader step-by-step from the beginnings of grasping what is happening to her all the way to healing once the relationship has ended. Outstanding!

A man's partner is not his child, and the freedoms he "grants" her are not credits to be spent like chips when the urge to control her arises.

How do we change societal values so that women's rights to live free of insults, invasion, disempowerment, and intimidation is respected? One way is simply to declare out loud to people in your life that women have these rights unconditionally.

The purpose of this book is to equip women with the ability to protect themselves, physically and psychologically, from angry and controlling men.

Make a decision inside of yourself—a deep decision—that you are 100 percent responsible for your actions, and he is 100 percent responsible for his actions. You have zero responsibility for what he does, and he has zero responsibility for what you do.

An abusive man is at his most punishing when the woman moves toward health, independence, and social connection.

The deaf community is hungry to see itself in the most positive way.

Stop caring what other people think Erin. Life's too short to live by other people's rules

He doesn't teach you what to think. He teaches you how to think.

Quiero tener una opinión cuando todo esto termine. Quiero decidir. No quiero que el cáncer decida por mi. Mi cuerpo. Mi elección.

Life's too short to wear ugly clothes.

Ascolta, soltanto quando governeremo una città, aboliremo l'uso del denaro, il possesso privato dei beni e le differenze di censo, allora la luce della nostra fede sarà così potente da illuminare tutte le genti.

The clear light of science teaches us that we must be our own saviors, if we are to be found worth saving.

Se achar que não valho nada, serei nada. Deixarei que os outros falem, decidam, vivam por mim. Porém, se acreditar que apesar dos naturais limites e do medo todo eu mereço uma dose de coisas positivas, vou lutar por isso. Vou até permitir que os outros me amem.