Quotes About Development

The ability to love depends on one's capacity to emerge from narcissism

L'amore infantile segue il principio: amo perché sono amato. L'amore maturo segue il principio: sono amato perché amo. L'amore immaturo dice: ti amo perché ho bisogno di te. L'amore maturo dice: ho bisogno di te perché ti amo.

The ability to love depends on one's capacity to emerge from narcissism, and from the incestuous fixation to mother and clan; it depends on our capacity to grow, to develop a productive orientation in our relationship toward the world and ourselves. This process of emergence, of birth, of waking up, requires one quality as a necessary condition: faith. The practice of the art of loving requires the practice of faith.

Well-being is the state of having arrived at the full development of reason: reason not in the sense of a merely intellectual judgment, but in that of grasping truth by "letting things be" (to use Heidegger's term) as they are.

The problem of education hinges on this point. If parents were more developed themselves and rested in their own center, the opposition between authoritarian and laissez-faire education would hardly exist. Needing this being-authority, the child reacts to it with great eagerness; on the other hand, the child rebels against pressure or neglect by people who show by their own behavior that they themselves have not made the effort they expect from the growing child.)

Mental health is achieved if man develops into full maturity according to the characteristics and laws of human nature. Mental illness consists in the failure of such development.

Living structures can be only if they become; they can exist only if they change. Change and growth are inherent qualities of the life process.

Joy, then, is what we experience in the process of growing nearer to the goal of becoming ourselves.

Doubt is the starting point of modern philosophy; the need to silence it had a most powerful stimulus on the development of modern philosophy and science. But although many rational doubts have been solved by rational answers, the irrational doubt has not disappeared and cannot disappear as long as man has not progressed from negative freedom to positive freedom.

The limits of the growth of individuation and self are set partly by individual conditions, but essentially by social conditions

Toda sociedad que excluya, relativamente, el desarrollo del amor, a la larga perece a causa de su propia contradicción con las necesidades básicas de la naturaleza del hombre.

Just as man transforms the world around him, so he transforms himself in the process of history. He is his own creation, as it were. But just as he can only transform and modify the natural materials around him according to their nature, so he can only transform and modify himself according to his own nature. What man does in the process of history is to develop this potential, and to transform it according to its own possibilities.

once torn away from nature, he cannot return to it; once thrown out of paradise—a state of original oneness with nature—cherubim with flaming swords block his way, if he should try to return. Man can only go forward by developing his reason, by finding a new harmony, a human one

Er musste an eine Zeichnung von Daumier denken, die Der Fortschritt hieß. Daumier hatte auf dem Blatt Schnecken dargestellt, die hintereinander herkrochen, das war das Tempo der menschlichen Entwicklung. Aber die Schnecken krochen im Kreis! Und das war das Schlimmste.

Katczinsky says it is all to do with education - it softens the brain.

While I was despairing and thinking everything was lost, it was quietly growing. I thought that parting was always final. Now I know that growing is a kind of parting. To grow means to leave something behind. And there is no end to it.

Kad cilv?ks ir pieaudzis? [..] Kad vair?k dom? par sevi nek? par citiem.

The average ego, the average individual, remains fixed in the group, although in the course of development he is compelled to give up the original security of the unconscious, to evolve a conscious system, and to take upon himself all the complications and sufferings which such development entails.

The pleasurable qualities associated with the previous ego phase, once that system is outgrown, become painful for the ego of the next phase.

An extremely common cause of marital conflicts and divorces lies in the fact that the development toward a new phase of relationship, vitally necessary for one partner, is tragically doomed to failure owing to the other partner's lack of understanding or inability to participate in the development.

To produce the kind of landscape effects Olmsted strived to create required not months but years, even decades. I have all my life been considering distant effects and always sacrificing immediate success and applause to that of the future, he wrote. In laying out Central Park we determined to think of no result to be realized in less than forty years.

As the firm grew, so did the city. It got bigger, taller, and richer; but it also grew dirtier, darker, and more dangerous. A miasma of cinder-flecked smoke blackened its streets and at times reduced visibility to the distance of a single block, especially in winter, when coal furnaces were in full roar.

I have all my life been considering distant effects and always sacrificing immediate success and applause to that of the future," he wrote. "In laying out Central Park we determined to think of no result to be realized in less than forty years.

The city had laid miles and miles of streets and sewers through regions where perhaps one solitary house stood out alone