Quotes About Development

It's just supposed to come, isn't it?" "Did your reading just come to you? Or did you have to devote effort to it? The seed of the gift may come, but a seedling that isn't nourished dies quickly.

Even we are guilty of not nurturing gifts, and the gifts that aren't fed shrivel and die.

He was too young to begin losing himself.

This was more than just making the best of it, this was something taking root, a seed being planted. But it was a seed that couldn't be planted.

There is no substitute for books in the life of a child.

I have come to feel that the essence of life is not what it so often seems to be - working to have, working to get, working to possess. It's about becoming . It's about what's happening inside us.

humane changes with the knowledge

Reformation, like education, is a journey, not a destination.

Back when we were kids, the experts thought kids were protected if they couldn't access their most damaging memories. But now they know suppressed memories can cause all kinds of problems as an adult- anxiety, depression, PTSD, amnesia...

Adoptive parents must begin where the child is developmentally, not chronologically. Healthy dependence must be recreated for the child who is not attached to the adoptive parent, regardless of the child's age. Strategies to foster attachment to the new parents are as important for children who were securely attached and need to transfer their attachment as they are for insecurely or unattached toddlers.

Children need food, comforting, shelter, touch, smiles, eye contact, and the opportunity to play and grow up safe, strong, and healthy. Meet the new toddler's needs on demand, and she will gradually learn to delay gratification and become more and more able to be responsible for meeting some of her own needs as she grows and develops.

Even while attaching, our toddlers are motivated by an internal clock that drives them to become more independent and autonomous! A challenge under the best of circumstance, adopted toddlers need special help finding appropriate declarations of independence. We have to surround our children with love that claims, but doesn't repress appropriate development.

The resilient toddler Of course, there are exceptions to everything written thus far about the relationship between a toddler's early care, his pre-placement preparation, the way his transition is handled, and his overall developing sense of wellbeing. Nothing is absolute.

Children also use pretend play to confront and assume some control over their fears. That is why playing doctor and being the one to give the shots is so popular with children. Child-controlled play can reinforce specific cognitive tasks such as object permanence. Children engage in various forms of appear-disappear play beginning at about the developmental age of six months as a way to explore issues of attachment and develop object permanence.

a toddler's experience of grief is complicated by the way in which he thinks. Left unacknowledged and unattended, grief can block development and attachment to the adoptive family.

When I was a child I didn't care about getting an education, and I didn't finish high school.

People fall forward to success.

We fall forward to succeed.

People fail forward to success.

How can one explain all the time and thought that goes into raising a child, all the opportunities for mistakes, all the chances to recover and try again? How does one break the news that nothing permanent can be formed in an instant--children are not weaned, potty trained, taught manners, introduced to civilization in one or two tries--as everyone imagined.

We are all works in progress until the moment we die, none of us complete until that precise event.

A clever girl may pass through the phase of foolish miss on the way to sensible woman.

Most children suffer from a crippling lack of stimulation. The brain is like any other muscle; use it, and it develops. Ignore it, and it atrophies.

Mary Lynn Manns