Quotes About Development

Det vi tar till oss som tjugoåringar är inte nödvändigtvis samma saker som vi tar till oss som fyrtioåringar och vice versa. Detta gäller både böcker och livet i allmänhet (s. 51).

and James Patterson (or whoever writes for James Patterson)—

Next time, we fail better.

How is it that he gets to do so many things and he never changes? How is it that you have done so little and you change like a second hand on a clock?

Humans are not born forever on the day their mothers have them; life necessitates giving birth to themselves over and over again.

When you become a teenager, you step onto a bridge. You may already be on it. The opposite shore is adulthood. Childhood lies behind. The bridge is made of wood. As you cross, it burns behind you

How glibly and thoughtlessly that phrase 'make us grow' slides off our tongues. As if growth were always a happy, shapely matter: leaves unfurling, blossoms opening, hearts and minds joyously stretching toward more light. Whereas the fact of the matter was, when we asked for growth, we were asking for a mess. Exploding tempers, privately nursed little petri dishes of resentments, insecure stumblings into dangerous new places.

Not everybody gets to grow up. First you have to survive your childhood, and then begins the hard work of growing into it.

Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.

If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living.

Changes are not only possible and predictable, but to deny them is to be an accomplice to one's own unnecessary vegetation.

Life after adolescence is not one long plateau. Changes are not only possible and predictable, but to deny them is to be an accomplice to one's own unnecessary vegetation.

Trying to stabilize—that is what the twenties are all about. The

Growing in tandem is virtually impossible in a patriarchal society, as ours has been. Only one-half of the couple has the use of that remarkable support system known as a wife. Added to this basic determinant of tempo is the rate of social change. Even in a relatively stagnant society, the odds are minimal that any couple can enjoy matched development.

If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living.

No two people can possibly coordinate all their developmental crises.

Resolving the issues of one passage does not insulate us forever. There will be other tricky channels ahead, and we learn by moving through them. If we pretend the crises of development don't exist, not only will they rise up later and hit with a greater wallop but in the meantime we don't grow.

As men and women enter midlife, the tables begin to turn. Many men I interviewed found themselves wanting to learn how to be responsive.

If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we are not really living. Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.

Nothing ever stands still," she told them. "And neither should you.

When you're young, you can excuse many things, hoping they will strengthen with time.

Nothing ever stands still, and neither should you.

That which is grows, while that which isnot becomes.

Civilization begins with soap.