Quotes About Support

The whole world will tell them what's wrong with them—loud and often. Our job is to let our children know what's right about them.

And yet, it's our listening that can give the greatest comfort. It's our acceptance of their unhappy feelings that can make it easier for our kids to cope with them.

7. Is there any way to help

Resist the temptation to "make better" instantly. Instead of giving advice, continue to accept and reflect on your child's feelings.

Conclusion: What people of all ages can use in a moment of distress is not agreement or disagreement; they need someone to recognize what it is they're experiencing.

It's much more helpful for an unhappy youngster to hear, "I see something is making you sad," rather than to be interrogated with "What happened?" or "Why do you feel that way?" It's easier to talk to a grown-up who accepts what you're feeling rather than one who presses you for explanations.

Compassion is always appreciated, whether it comes sooner or later.

There are youngsters who prefer no talk at all when they're upset. For them, Mom or Dad's presence is comfort enough.

more helpful for an unhappy youngster to hear, "I see something is making you sad," rather than to be interrogated with "What happened?" or "Why do you feel that way?" It's easier to talk to a grown-up who accepts what you're feeling rather than one who presses you for explanations.

the question "Why?" only adds to their problem. In addition to their original distress, they must now analyze the cause and come up with a reasonable explanation.

The danger here is that this kind of praise puts relationships on thin ice. Might the big brother feel threatened when his little brother learns to tie his shoes? Will his accomplishment be diminished? And how will big sister feel when the "baby" starts learning to read? And will the brothers be likely to work together and help each other out with cleanups when one's achievement depends on the other's failure?

The more you try to push a child's unhappy feelings away, the more he becomes stuck in them. The more comfortably you can accept the bad feelings, the easier it is for kids to let go of them. I guess you could say that if you want to have a happy family you'd better be prepared to permit the expression of a lot of unhappiness.

It's much easier to tell your troubles to a parent who is really listening. Sometimes a sympathetic silence is all a child needs.

I want my kids to know that they're entitled to be miserable without their mother falling apart.

The more you try to push a child's unhappy feelings away, the more he becomes stuck in them.

But let someone really listen, let someone acknowledge my inner pain and give me a chance to talk more about what's troubling me, and I begin to feel less upset, less confused, more able to cope with my feelings and my problem.

It's hard for a child to think clearly or constructively when someone is questioning, blaming, or advising her.

When we urge a child to push a bad feeling away— however kindly—the child seems to get only more upset.

If someone really listens, acknowledges my emotional pain, and gives me the opportunity to talk more about it, I then "begin to feel less upset.

I have insecurities of course, but I don't hang out with anyone who points them out to me.

We speak with hideous honesty. A pair of women who have been the very best to one another and now the worst.

It's not the friends who ride up with you in the limousine, it's the one who comes home with you on the bus.

Maimonides, one of the few people in the Middle Ages to deny the validity of astrology, quoted the phrase "Israel has no star of fortune" in support of his argument, while others produced opposing opinions to back their views.

All the world needs is one clip to string everyone together #bestrong