Quotes About Support

Sometimes what you depend on is other people being even more wacked than you are.

It was a failure of pedagogical nerve, she reminded herself, to give up on a student.

And to this day, my Mom is my role model.

Cale, I am the Second of Mask. We are more than comrades, more than friends. I am at your shoulder through whatever comes. Now … be the First.

For men to love each other truly, they must have shed tears together.

The structure of a friendship is seldom submitted to analysis until it comes under pressure;

Without Arthur's voice, I never would have enjoyed that success.

I would be willing to do almost anything to make Art happy. I care about our friendship. The only thing I won't do is change the essence of my work.

Like a bridge over troubled waterI will lay me down.

The scam boggles the mind when we consider that three of the top officers of the Federal Reserve Bank of New York publicly supported Bolshevism – Sanders, Peabody and William Boyce Thompson.

The only thing that helps me get less angry is when my husband says to me, "I know you are scared, not angry" and gives me a

When you set and observe personal limits, you are also benefiting the person in your life with BPD. In fact, when you let the BP violate your boundaries, or do not set any for him or her, you may be making the situation worse.

So I decided to write my own self-help book. Because BPD affects six million people in North America, I figured that at least eighteen million family members, partners, and friends—like me—were blaming themselves for behavior that had little to do with them.

Remember, your loved one's behavior is not about you. You may feel controlled or taken advantage of through threats, no-win situations, the silent treatment, rages, and other methods that seem unfair. But, no matter what the person with BPD may say, everything that's going on stems not from you, but from the disorder, and the deep pain your loved one feels inside.

However, if the therapist takes everything the person with BPD says at face value without probing further—and this is not uncommon—the therapist may inadvertently reinforce their twisted thinking, making things worse.

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Internet newsgroups and message boards on AOL are like colossal recovery support groups in the biggest church basement in the world.

People with BPD need their friends and family members to be stable and clear—not to reject them and not to smother them. They need you to let them take care of themselves and to not do things for them that they can do for themselves. The best way to do this and help them is by working on yourself.

Enlisting allies: The blackmailer asks other people to pressure you. This seems to be most common when the person with BPD is a parent. In one case, a mother with BPD showed up at her daughter's door with four relatives to back her up.

However, children who have not fully developed through the earlier stages—i.e., they have not developed trust, initiative, and an ability to learn autonomously—will grow to doubt their ability to be successful. If they are not supported by caring adults at this stage, they may develop low self-esteem, culminating in a strong sense of inferiority.

Do not disparage the BP—no matter how much you think he or she deserves it. Instead, sincerely express your concern for the BP or acknowledge your own confusion about why the BP would say such things. Be cautious about discussing BPD or any other psychological problem—people may misunderstand and think you are trying to belittle the BP.

This lack of empathy is a central hallmark of NPD in the same way that a fear of abandonment is central to BPD. Do not expect someone with NPD to listen to, commiserate with, or emotionally support you, whether in a crisis or in an ordinary conversation. This lack of empathy feels deeply foreign to most of us.

The holy grail of the life of someone with BPD is to find that caring, compassionate person who will magically fill their empty insides, take care of them and their needs, and never leave them feeling alone again.

Listen to the children nonjudgmentally. Help them trust their own perceptions.