Quotes About Support

If you listen hard enough, you can tell what a person needs from you. And if you give them what they need, you've got a friend for life.

Lizette would never get it. Eva needed her for everything. She'd just never had her.

You put me back together when I was in pieces. You gave me confidence, and reminded me that I was lovable. You saved me.

Well, prose before bros,

Jenna's the beginning and end of me.

You know what I read?" asked Eva through her pasted-on smile. "A tree grows its branches out until it touches the tips of the next closest tree. And they're linked forever. Because if they're really close, their roots grow together. They're so intertwined underneath that no matter what happens above ground, they stay connected.

In other words, they are doing the necessary therapy to understand their trauma-related issues, but they are ignoring the needs of their bodies and not balancing their daily stressors with support and stress relief.

One does not need to create some powerful therapeutic intervention in the life of a CoA in order to make a big difference. An open door, a couch to curl up on, an after-school snack, or a place to play can make the essential difference for CoAs: they just need a place to go that isn't in a state of chaos, somewhere where they feel they can relax.

Today there is help all around—articles abound on these subjects, 12-step rooms are around the corner, and help is down the hall in many schools and workplaces. But we have to reach out and take hold of the help. And we have to stick with it until we can create meaningful change in our lives.

They may become what family systems theorists call the "symptom bearer," symptomatic on behalf of the whole family. Children who act out, for example, can have the effect of getting warring parents to pull together in order to address what's going on for the child; thus, the family buys some more time, the focus is diverted from the parent's or the family's underlying problems, and homeostasis, albeit a costly one, is again achieved.

A trigger that is part of the healing process is recovery itself. During recovery, we "remember" what we have "forgotten." For a moment it hurts all over again. But if we can get through that reexperiencing of the pain with the help of a solid recovery support network, there is freedom on the other side. Actually the fear of the pain is often worse than the pain itself.

The lack of sharing genuine feeling in the addicted home can also lead to isolation, a common feature of depression.

In working through the pain of a traumatic past, it is important to help clients to identify not only what hurt them, but what sustained them.

Along with mistrust, hyperreactivity, hyperarousal, depression, and aggression, the numbing response and emotional constriction that are part of the trauma response may lead to the loss of ability to accept caring and support from others. As mistrust grows, so does the ability to accept love and support (van der Kolk 1987).

People who have experienced trauma may have a tendency to isolate or to withdraw for safety into a lonely world of their own in order to avoid pain. Reaching out may make them feel too vulnerable or rejection sensitive, or they may be out of touch with their need for connection and support or not know how to bring it into their experience.

This was surely the real boon of a religious upbringing: it gave you a number to ring in emergencies, which was some consolation, even if no one answered.

I need to know that wherever I end up, in the stars or in the gutter, you're along for the ride.

If your intentions are pure, I'm seeking a friend for the end of the world.

As usual, no one's ever around when you need them.

That's why you have to save the dying man. Because you want him around to keep saving you.

All my life I waited for someone who would say things like that to me. And for someone I didn't feel alone in the presence of. Someone who understood. Someone who would make me feel like it wasn't just me against the world.

Oh my God, that would be just like An Officer and a Gentleman," Kat cried. "Pick her up, Grace! Do it!

If your intentions are pure I'm seeking a friend for the end of the world

Call me now it's all right It's just the end of the world You need a friend in the world 'Cause you can't hide So call and I'll get right back If your intentions are pure I'm seeking a friend for the end of the world