Quotes About Control

When you begin any new negotiation or find yourself losing control of an ongoing negotiation, you return to—what? Your mission and purpose. And where is your mission and purpose set? In your adversary's world. And what is embedded deep within your adversary's world? Their pain. When in doubt, return to the pain. And always nurture, because without it, the pain may simply be too much.

one thing, they don't have a mission and purpose to guide them. They thereby put themselves on an emotional roller coaster, and this is a fatal error, as we shall see time and again in these pages. Disappointment, excitement, despair, hope—they experience the whole range of emotions, and all because they're reacting to events over which they don't have control and ignoring those over which they do have control.

When we have the habit of setting as a goal only activity that we can accomplish and that is genuinely productive, we've taken the first step to getting some real work done. Rather than succeeding or not succeeding almost by accident in the service of some goal that's really beyond our control, we've taken the first step to taking responsibility for our actions and to end what is, really, self-deception (and probably companywide deception).

you're scorekeeping, and scorekeeping means you're thinking about results over which you have no real control.

winning is beyond our control, while preparation is 100 percent under our control.

It is absolutely imperative that you as a negotiator understand the importance of this point. You do NOT need this deal, because to be needy is to lose control and make bad decisions.

neediness can have—will have—a dramatic, always negative effect on their behavior. You must overcome any neediness at the negotiating table.

Stop Trying to Control the Outcome Focus on Your Behavior and Actions Instead

Goals you can control, objectives you cannot. By following your behavioral goals, you get to your objectives.

What you can control is behavior and activity, what you cannot control is the result of this behavior and activity.

I'm the first to admit this whole salary thing is getting out of control. In the final analysis, it's still about the work.

Anyone can rejigger an atom bomb," said Hopkins. "But to possess the minds of millions? To make them your willing zombies across a whole decade? That's real magic.

they're fucking up minds they do not own.

The purpose of bureaucracy is to compensate for incompetence and lack of discipline.

Creativity dies in an indisciplined environment.

We like to control the map of our life and know everything well in advance. But faith is content just knowing that God's promise cannot fail. This, in fact, is the excitement of walking with God.

L'austérité est une bonne arme contre ces moments de cafard qui changent ton âme en égout. Pour commencer, c'est toi qui reprends le contrôle, même s'il y'a des chances pour que ce ne soit que pure illusion. Ca aide au moins à limiter les dégâts, peut-être pas pour soi mais pour son entourage.

When we do discipline without showing frustration, the odds for success increase in a very big way.

art"? Simply stated, give control away when you don't need it, so you can get some back when you do!

Anger Short-Circuits Learning

The key to effective discipline is to control only what we can control. We can never make an infant stop crying, quit bothering us, stop sucking his or her thumb, or cut the whining. What we can and should control, though, is where he or she does all these things.

Mind you, you have to have women around you in order to beat them—at the very least, they need to be within arm's reach.

Some of those reported legitimate pit bull attacks—the price of so many unsocialized, abused, and aggressively trained dogs popping up around the country—but many were the result of pit bull hysteria, in which almost any incident involving a dog was falsely reported as a pit bull attack. The breed, which had existed in some form for hundreds of years, didn't suddenly lose control. The dogs simply fell into the hands of many more people who had no interest in control.

The reason to moderate is to avoid having to quit.