Quotes About Control

human tongue is a beast that few can master.

as Machiavelli said, it is better to be feared than loved. Fear you can control; love, never.

In any competitive environment in which there are winners or losers, the person who has the wider, more global perspective will inevitably prevail. The reason is simple: such a person will be able to think beyond the moment and control the overall dynamic through careful strategizing.

Daily Law: Develop the habit of examining in depth your own emotional responses. You will end up slowly eliminating unnecessary reactions. The Laws of Human Nature, 1: Master Your Emotional Self—The Law of Irrationality

Great courtiers throughout history have mastered the science of manipulating people.

Better to have others depend on you out of fear of the consequences of losing you than out of love of your company.

People trying to make a show of their authority are easily deceived by the surrender tactic. Your outward sign of submission makes them feel important; satisfied that you respect them, they become easier targets for a later counterattack

Make people depend on you. More is to be gained from such dependence than courtesy. He who has slaked his thirst, immediately turns his back on the well, no longer needing it. When dependence disappears, so does civility and decency, and then respect.

What gets us into trouble in the realm of power is often our own overreaction to the moves of our enemies and rivals.

this often neutralizes their behavior—they expected, even wanted you to react with force and so they are caught off-guard and confounded by your lack of resistance.

Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.

lesson: Once the words are out, you cannot take them back. Keep them under control. Be particularly careful with sarcasm: The momentary satisfaction you gain with your biting words will be outweighed by the price you pay.

Daily Law: Remember that greater control over events will come from realistic assessments of the situation, precisely what is made most difficult by a brain submerged in trivia. The Laws of Human Nature, 6: Elevate Your Perspective—The Law of Shortsightedness

El hecho de que una persona ejerza tan profundo efecto en ti transforma todas tus maniobras posteriores. Tu intenso deseo contagiará a tu objetivo, y le brindará la peligrosa sensación de tener poder sobre ti.

Deception is a developed art of civilization and the most potent weapon in the game of power.

Aprende a ejercer el hechizo del en- cantador apuntando a las debilidades primarias de la gente: vanidad y amor propio.

For us, the split between our emotions and our cognition is a source of constant internal friction, comprising a second Emotional Self within us that operates beyond our will.

Nunca dividía a su ejército en unidades menores, ya que eso infringiría el principio militar de mantener concentradas las fuerzas; además, dispersarlas dificultaría su monitoreo, y se perdería el control de la batalla.

Control is an elusive phenomenon. Often, the harder you tug at people, the less control you have over them. Leadership is more than just barking out orders; it takes subtlety.

To show your frustration is to show that you have lost your power to shape events; it is the helpless action of the child who resorts to a hysterical fit to get his way. The powerful never reveal this kind of weakness.

Somos criaturas que no soportan sentir que obedecen a una voluntad ajena. Si tus objetivos lo descubrieran, tarde o temprano se volverán contra ti.

una vez que hayas elegido a la persona correcta, debes hacer que el objetivo venga a ti. Si en etapas iniciales logras hacerle creer que es él quien realiza el primer acercamiento, has ganado el juego.

The key to keeping the audience on the edge of their seats is letting events unfold slowly, then speeding them up at the right moment, according to a pattern and tempo that you control.

Everyone holds his fortune in his own hands