Quotes About Control

Our genes are a predisposition, but our genes are not our fate," I wrote to him. "If they were, then you'd be a victim, but you're not—you're one of the most powerful people on the planet.

When I have a chapter finished, I jot down who the viewpoint characters are, what they are wearing, what happened in the chapter. So as I go along, I outline each book as I write it. I never outline ahead of the writing, but after the writing is done. That keeps the creative side of my brain in control of the writing.

The truth, dear reader, is that I was as ready for him as any filly ready for the stud. My blood thrummed whenever he came near, the air crackling between us like one of Galvani's electrical experiments. It was a mercy that we had not been alone in our train compartment on the journey back to London; otherwise, I suspect the urgent swaying of the conveyance would have proven too much for my increasingly limited self-control.

Plans are jokes written by men for God's amusement.

I would not like him to be a pawn in someone else's political gamesmanship.

it was the smile that said, 'I know best. I know better than you.' The smile that said, 'I'm safe here and you're not.' The smile that said, 'I have a dick, so I win.

You control what path you take. Keep doing the right thing and handling the things within your control, and God will take care of the things that are out of your control. Everything will work out as it should.

Our job is to take care of those things within our control, then we are to leave the rest to God. All of this worrying won't change your circumstances. Doing something about the things in your control will.

Sometimes love is a surprise, an instant of recognition, a sudden gift at a sudden moment that makes everything different from then on. Some people will say that's not love, that you can't really love someone you don't know. But, I'm not so sure. Love doesn't seem to follow a plan; it's not a series of steps. It can hit with the force of nature--an earthquake, a tidal wave, a storm of wild relentless energy that is beyond your simple attempts at control.

It's strange, isn't it, how the idea of belonging to someone can sound so great? It can be comforting, the way it makes things decided. We like the thought of being held, until it's too tight. We like that certainty, until it means there's no way out. And we like being his, until we realize we're not ours anymore.

They say religion is about love, but you wonder how much of it really is about fear.

I'll tell you one thing about me, and that is that I'm not to keen on being bossed around. If, say, my Mom tells me to empty the dishwasher, I like to wait a little bit, you know, not hop up and do it right away, because then it feels more like my own idea. That's a little problematic when you have an actual boss.

Control was just wishful thinking, and you controlled things to hedge your bets, to be safe, to guard against loss.

Another person is, at the heart of it, unknowable. And if you cannot know a person enough to always guess what they're capable of, you certainly cannot know them enough to hold them in your hands, to control their behavior, to fight, manipulate, cajole or nurse or soothe them into doing what they should or shouldn't. People will do what they will do. The trick is admitting your own helplessness about that little fact.

the mind is a tyrant

Sometimes you can cattle rope your heart and sometimes you can't, is all.

We try to hold a storm in our own fist but we are not that strong.

Love doesn't seem to follow a plan; it's not a series of steps. It can hit with the force of nature - an earthquake, a tidal wave, a storm of wild, relentless energy that is beyond your simple attempts at control.

Nice is often just powerlessness with a smile.

The muse is the mystic force, but you are the master.

Sometimes writing is like playing with fire… like trying to tame an uncontrollable beast.

I write because I know I am only one to control the world I created in my books.

You see, most people gain weight because they give into cravings. But when you easily (and without feeling like you're depriving yourself) gain control, the extra weight comes off.

Changes are inevitable and not always controllable. What can be controlled is how you manage, react to and work through the change process.