Quotes About Control

Let's make this a slow ride, shall we?" The deep purr of her voice brought a sassy grin to his face. The long slant of his eyes grew languid. "You have the reins, cher. You can whip me with them if you like.

Women and land were for the use and benefit of man.75

Hierarchy was easily maintained when the majority felt there was someone below them. "How many," the author asked, "even of the better sort," would choose to be "Slaves to those above them, provided they might exercise an arbitrary and Tyrannical Rule over all below them?

can acknowledge and recognize your feelings—to yourself and to others—but you have a choice of when, where, and whether to express your feelings or to act on them.

Freudian notion that people act out what they cannot remember or what they cannot allow themselves to feel. It follows that as long as people are able to enact a dynamic (in this case, most frequently a disavowed dependency or a compulsion to be in control), they do not have to think about why they persistently behave in a particular way. When there are no negative consequences for their behavior, interpretations just roll off them.

When man is no longer his own master, custodian of his own silly vanities and childish contentments he's nothing at all—being in the first place only an agent of a very experimental stage of organic free will

if determinism is true, then "we are, in the final reckoning, merely playthings of fortune.

Secular ideologies preach liberty, but they practice tyranny.

We tend to have a limited concept of spiritual death as saying no only to things we want or covet -- our guilty pleasures and selfish ambitions. But in reality, it means dying inwardly to whatever has control over us. The thing that really controls us may not be what we want. It may be what we fear. Fear can dominate our lives just as strongly as desire.

People who have the power to control the "'official' definitions of reality" are in a position to impose their own private worldview across an entire society.

But the idea that Stoics don't have emotional skin in the game is a misreading of ancient Stoicism. The Stoics were the most nuanced of early emotion theorists, detailing the layered complexity of emotional life. They describe "proto-emotions" that we feel and can't control, and even a sage isn't impugned for experiencing these starts and startles.

Anger is "a movement generated by decision" that "can be eliminated by decision." What these Stoic-inspired teachers are trying to teach is control at that pivotal first moment of decision—the "assent to an evaluative impression." It's that assent to an impression of having been cheated in the case of these young kids, that gets the impulse of anger going.

Epictetus famously opens the Encheiridion this way: "Some things in the world are up to us, while others are not. Up to us are our faculties of judgment, motivation, desire, and aversion—in short, everything that is our own doing. Not up to us are our body and property, our reputations, and our official positions—in short, everything that is not our own doing.

Some things are up to us and some are not up to us." —Epictetus "I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change. I am changing the things I cannot accept." —Angela Davis "If you want to be a true professional, do something outside yourself." "Who will take responsibility for raising the next generation?" —Ruth Bader Ginsburg

Epictetus opens the Encheiridion with that dichotomy of control: "Some things are up to us and some are not up to us . . . If is one of those things that is not up to us, be ready to say, 'You are nothing in relation to me.

If you believe in telekinesis, please raise my hand.

Where's your self-respect? Why don't you get yourself in control? Life cannot hang on the love of one other person; you have got to hang your life on yourself.

When you're living your life in endurance mode, you don't expect anything good to happen. I'm not saying you don't dream about some miracle that would change everything for the better. But you pretty much know it's only a fantasy, and that you have no real control over anything.

Contentment maintains control over the spirit and does not allow ungoverned passions and unrestrained emotions to bring discomposure right at the moment when the greatest composure is called for. Contentment calms the heart and leads the heart to act and speak wisely, even when under great provocation.

Don't twist your voice while singing, You will hate how it sound when you are quiet

Life is a dream but the controls are in your hands.

No one had really won. Not me. Not Hyo Jin. Not our children. Only Sun Myung Moon had gotten what he wanted all along. My children and I had slipped out of the grasp of the Unification Church, but we were destined to remain in the shadow of the Moons.

Power has her ways. She acts on people, and people act on her.

When does power exist? Only in the moment it is exercised. To the woman with a skein, everything looks like a fight.