Quotes About Control

The nation which will not adopt an equilibrium of power must adopt a despotism. There is no other alternative.

If you don't run your own life, someone else will

If you don't run your own life, somebody else will.

He liked to bewilder his pupils, it was a form of tyranny.

A person with a religious spirit is one who uses My Word to execute his own will!

We don't have the luxury of thinking ... Some people make all the decisions for us

Collars, trench coats or jackboots – uniforms allow us to exercise our cruelty without ever feeling guilt.

Sure the priests ran the country back then and they hated women. Oh my God, they hated women and anything that had to do with women and anything to do with women's bodies or ideas or desires, and any chance that they had to humiliate a woman or bring her down, they would take full advantage of it.

Whenever I look at Edna O'Brien," continued Mr. Denby-Denby, "I get the impression that she wants to put every man she meets across her knee and give them a good spanking until they show her the proper respect. Oh, to be the bare bottom beneath that alabaster palm!

uniforms allow us to exercise our cruelty without ever feeling guilt.

I felt that this must be what it would be like to be married to someone, a constant back and forth of bickering, watching out for any stray comment in a conversation that might be corrected, anything to keep gaining the upper hand, the advantage, bringing one closer to taking the game, the set and the whole blasted match without ever ceding a point.

They looked at each other in absolute horror, as if they knew that they couldn't possibly control the chain of events set in place by that simple, inevitable meeting. The lives they had lived until that moment had come to an end. And then it didn't matter what happened next, their destinies were already decided.

You were cruel.' 'I was obedient.

a person who never learned to trust confuses intensity with intimacy, obsession with care, and control with security.

There is an absolutist quality to rage. Being angry all the time and overreacting to little things may be a sign that there is a deeper rage that needs to be worked on.

Our schools and prisons are the only places in the world where time is more important than the job to be done.

Hypervigilant and fear of losing control. You live in a state of readiness for attack. You feel jumpy and are easily startled. You have attacks of sudden fear or panic. You fear losing control.

Control madness causes severe relationship problems. There is no way to be intimate with a partner who distrusts you. Intimacy demands that each partner accept the other just the way he or she is.

As addiction specialist Patrick Carnes has pointed out, a person who never learned to trust confuses intensity with intimacy, obsession with care, and control with security.

Without the mind, the will is blind and has no content. Without content the will starts willing itself. This state of disablement causes severe problems, some of which are: 1. The will wills what can't be willed. 2. The will tries to control everything. 3. The will experiences itself as omnipotent or, when it has failed, as "wormlike." 4. The will wills for the sake of willing (impulsiveness). 5. The will wills in absolute extremes—all or nothing.

It's difficult to let someone get close to you if you feel defective and flawed as a human being. Shame-based couples maintain nonintimacy through poor communication, nonproductive circular fighting, games, manipulation, vying for control, withdrawal, blaming and confluence. Confluence is the agreement never to disagree. Conflulence creates pseudointimacy.

When shame underlies the control and release it seems to intensify both sides of the tension. . . . Shame makes the control dynamic more rigidly demanding and unforgiving and the release more dynamic and self-destructive. The more intensely one controls, the more one requires the balance of release and the more abusingly or self destructively one releases, the more intensely one requires control.

Having lost heart, they believe they must manipulate in order to get their needs met.

Blame. Whenever things don't turn out as planned, blame yourself or others. Blame is another defensive cover-up for shame. Blame maintains the balance in a dysfunctional system when control has broken down.