Quotes About Control

I no longer thought that compulsiveness was just from rigid people who were overcontrolling. I could see that the front part of their brain worked too hard. When we calmed down this part of the brain with supplements or medications, people were less likely to overeat or be under chronic stress.

Studies show that journaling is a powerful tool to help get worries under control and out of your head.

the feeling of control—whether real or illusory—is one of the wellsprings of mental health.

Our desire to control is so powerful, and the feeling of being in control so rewarding, that people often act as though they can control the uncontrollable.

human beings come into the world with a passion for control, they go out of the world the same way

Perhaps the strangest thing about this illusion of control is not that it happens but that it seems to confer many of the psychological benefits of genuine control. In fact, the one group of people who seem generally immune to this illusion are the clinically depressed, who tend to estimate accurately the degree to which they can control events in most situation.

Anyone can become angry —that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way —this is not easy. ARISTOTLE, The Nicomachean Ethics

Benjamin Franklin put it well: "Anger is never without a reason, but seldom a good one.

People with well-developed emotional skills are also more likely to be content and effective in their lives, mastering the habits of mind that foster their own productivity; people who cannot marshal some control over their emotional life fight inner battles that sabotage their ability for focused work and clear thought.

But the rational mind usually doesn't decide what emotions we "should" have !

out-of-control emotions can make smart people stupid.

For better or worse, intelligence can come to nothing when the emotions hold sway.

When we are in the grip of craving or fury, head-over-heals in love our recoiling in dread, it is the limbic system that has us in its grip.

When frustration is unchecked, Sam, it turns into rage, and rage triggers action.

It's very difficult to give up on things we can't control. And that's what a divorce represents. It represents the ultimate loss of control, a marriage and a mate we can't control. And if we give up on the mate and the marriage, by acknowledging that loss, we can free ourselves of the anger and resentment - and that will liberate our children. Finally, children are not affected by our grief and mourning. They are affected by our inability to grieve and mourn.

So, I see technology as a Trojan Horse: It looks like a wonderful thing, but they are going to regret introducing it into the schools because it simply can't be controlled.

Educators are still spending way too much time trying to control what kids learn, bending the content to their own purposes, hoping beyond hope to change - by using technology - but not change too much.

Intrinsic motivation is conducive to creativity; controlling extrinsic motivation is detrimental to creativity.

Jobs that are demanding but don't offer autonomy burn us out.

The most successful people, the evidence shows, often aren't directly pursuing conventional notions of success. They're working hard and persisting through difficulties because of their internal desire to control their lives, learn about their world, and accomplish something that endures.

The most fulfilling jobs share a common trait: They prod us to work at our highest level but in a way that we, not someone else, control.

Autonomous motivation involves behaving with a full sense of volition and choice," they write, "whereas controlled motivation involves behaving with the experience of pressure and demand toward specific outcomes that comes from forces perceived to be external to the self.

economic accomplishment, not to mention personal fulfillment, more often swings on a different hinge. It depends not on keeping our nature submerged but on allowing it to surface. It requires resisting the temptation to control people—and instead doing everything we can to reawaken their deep-seated sense of autonomy.

Since roughly 90 percent of the population is right-handed, that means that in roughly 90 percent of the population, the left hemisphere is controlling important movements such as handwriting, eating, and maneuvering a computer mouse.