Quotes About Control

Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry.

L'action semble succéder à la pensée, mais, en réalité, l'action et la pensée se produisent simultanément. En menant une action qui est sous le contrôle de la volonté, nous pouvons indirectement gouverner les sentiments qui échappent à son influence.

La acción parece seguir al sentimiento, pero en realidad, acción y sentimiento van juntos y, regulando la acción, que se halla bajo el dominio directo de la voluntad, podemos regular indirectamente el sentimiento, que no lo está".

Let's love ourselves so much that we won't permit our enemies to control our happiness, our health, and our looks

Even if we can't love our enemies, let's at least love ourselves. Let's love ourselves so much that we won't permit our enemies to control our happiness, our health and our looks. As Shakespeare put it: Heat not a furnace for your foe so hot That it do singe yourself.

He never raised his voice, even in the midst of volatile situations.

Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not. "Thus the sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if our cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there...

Much of our problem is not, as is often said, that we have failed to get what is in our head down in our heart. Much of what hinders us is that we have had a lot of mistaken theology in our head and it has gotten down into our heart. And it is controlling our inner dynamics so that the head and heart cannot, even with the aid of the Word and the Spirit, pull one another straight.

Anything done in anger can be done better without it!

To manipulate, drive or manage people is not the same thing as to lead them.

Much of our effort to do things for the Lord is really the resurgence of our desire to dominate and make things happen in our own strength.

Circumstances and other people are not in control of an individual's character or of the life that lies endlessly before

The ultimate freedom we have as individuals is the power to select what we will allow or require our minds to dwell upon and think about.

Anger indulged, instead of simply waved off, always has in it an element of self-righteousness and vanity. Find a person who has embraced anger, and you find a person with a wounded ego.

We humans, though, on our own—manipulating the natural powers around us, whether of the atom or of social processes—are truly a terrifying phenomenon. We easily appear to be completely out of control today, careening madly toward the edge of the cosmic cliff. Candid observers quickly come to the conclusion that there is some pervasive and basic lack in human life.

God's own "kingdom," or "rule," is the range of his effective will, where what he wants done is done. The person of God himself and the action of his will are the organizing principles of his kingdom, but everything that obeys those principles, whether by nature or by choice, is within his kingdom.

We cannot behave on the spot as he did and taught if in the rest of our time we live as everybody else does. The on the spot episodes are not the place where we can, even by the grace of God, redirect unchristlike but ingrained tendencies of action toward sudden Christlikeness. Our efforts to take control at that moment will fail so uniformly and ingloriously that the whole project of following Christ will appear ridiculous to the watching world.

Our "kingdom" is simply the range of our effective will. Whatever we genuinely have the say over is in our kingdom.

desires are terrible masters. The objects of desire may differ; I may want to eat or sleep, I may want to dominate others, I may want great wealth. Taken by themselves, desires are inherently chaotic and deceitful (James 4:1–3; Eph. 4:22).

we demean God by considering him a cosmic boss who orders humans around

In our spiritual disintegration we may not be able to rule the earth, but we now have the power several times over to ruin it utterly.

Practice in not speaking can at least give us enough control over what we say that our tongues do not "go off" automatically. This discipline provides us with a certain inner distance that gives us time to consider our words fully and the presence of mind to control what we say and when we say it.

They have long chosen the strategy of selectively resisting their feelings instead of that of not having them—of simply changing or replacing them.

Dying to self does not exclude having a proper sense of self-worth, including the need to feel recognized and valued. Recognition from others is a good and proper thing. But it must not be what controls our lives. It must not become the goal of our existence. If we find that our need for recognition is consuming our thoughts and determining our behavior, then we need to move to a higher source for our sense of our personal worth. That source is, of course, God's love for us.