Quotes from Alan Loy McGinnis

The only man who never makes a mistake is the man who never does anything.

You are a manipulator when you try to persuade people to do something that is not in their best interests but is in yours. You are a motivator when you find goals that will be good for both sides, then weld together a high-achieving, high-morale partnership to achieve them.

Replace self-criticism with regular, positive self-talk. Replace fear of failure with clear pictures of yourself functioning successfully and happily.

But the best managers expect their people to make mistakes, and instead of replacing staff constantly, they recognize that it is more efficient to teach people how to cope with their failures and learn from their

The best friendships do not require that anyone keep the upper hand.

For fear of seeming sentimental, many of us hold back expressions of warmth and thereby miss out on rich and profound friendships.

Fears are educated into us," Dr. Karl Menninger once wrote, "and they can, if we wish, be educated out.

The bigger your job, the more negative evaluations you must hand out. And the more criticism you must be willing to absorb.

Wise parents do not criticize each other in front of their children or their friends. Nor do they talk negatively about their children when others are present. That is disloyalty.

The best transactions in families or between friends occur on the fly. They come as stochastic shocks, or serendipities. People often step out onto our path as we are hurrying to a meeting or intent on finishing a project, and it usually turns out that the meeting or the project was inconsequential compared to the chance to get closer to someone we cared for.

You can get everything in life you want if you just help enough other people get what they want.

If you train your mind to search for the positive things about other people, you will be surprised at how many good things you can observe in them and comment upon.

Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.

Tears are often a gift from God, and sadness is a healthy emotion.

If people know we expect good things from them, they will in most cases go to great lengths to live up to our expectations.

Love, honor, and negotiate.

The ultimate leaders develop followers who will surpass them.

But leisure has little to do with one's happiness. To the contrary, I've found that the happiest people have found some cause and they stride through life propelled by a commitment.

Learn, earn, return - these are the 3 phases of life. Jack Balousek There is no more noble occupation in the world than to assist another human being - to help someone to succeed.

Review your goals twice every day in order to be focused on achieving them. "Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.