Quotes from Brene Brown

The root of the word courage is cor—the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage had a very different definition than it does today. Courage originally meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart." Over

We need hope like we need air.

Communicating our expectations is brave and vulnerable.

Boredom is the uncomfortable state of wanting to engage in satisfying activity, but being unable to do it. When we're bored we experience a lack of stimulation, time seems to pass very slowly, and if we're working on tasks, they seem to lack challenge and meaning.

When we spend our lives pushing away and protecting ourselves from feeling vulnerable or from being perceived as too emotional, we feel contempt when others are less capable or willing to mask feelings, suck it up, and soldier on.

Courage and fear are not mutually exclusive. Most of us feel brave and afraid at the exact same time. We feel vulnerable.

An intolerance for uncertainty is an important contributing factor to all types of anxiety.

Hope is a way of thinking—a cognitive process. Yes, emotions play a role, but hope is made up of what researcher C. R. Snyder called a "trilogy of goals, pathways, and agency.

The connection between failure and powerlessness is important, because all of my years of research lead me to argue that we are most dangerous to ourselves and to the people around us when we feel powerless. Powerlessness leads to fear and desperation. Look behind an act of violence, from bullying to terrorism, and you will often find a frantic attempt to escape powerlessness.

We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don't function as we were meant to.

I do believe we can heal disappointment, but it's important not to underestimate the damage it inflicts on our spirit.

Living without connection—without knowing love and belonging—is not victory.

the umbrella term love as including "the preoccupying and strong desire for further connection, the powerful bonds people hold with a select few and the intimacy that grows between them, the commitments to loyalty and faithfulness

In the midst of uncertainty and fear, leaders have an ethical responsibility to hold their people in discomfort—to acknowledge the tumult but not fan it, to share information and not inflate or fake it.

but in our social media world, it's increasingly difficult to determine what's a real attempt to connect and what's performance. The only thing I do know is that it's not vulnerability.

Para evitar las críticas no digas nada, no hagas nada, no seas nada. Aristóteles

Power with is "based on mutual support, solidarity, collaboration and recognition and respect for differences." Power to is "based on the belief that each individual has the power to make a difference." Power within is defined by an ability to recognize differences and respect others, grounded in a strong foundation of self-worth and self-knowledge.

If blame is driving, shame is riding shotgun. In organizations, schools, and families, blaming and finger-pointing are often symptoms of shame. Shame researchers June Tangney and Ronda Dearing explain that in shame-bound relationships, people "measure carefully, weigh, and assign blame.

The research has taught me that happiness and joy are different experiences.

If I have to ask, it's not worth it." She tilted her head and said, "If you're not asking for what's important to you, maybe it's because you don't think you are worth it.

When we allow ourselves to become culturally conditioned to believe that we are not enough and that we don't make enough or have enough, it damages our soul. This is why I think practicing critical awareness and reality-checking is as much about spirituality as it is about critical thinking.

I say "counterfeit" because when we see someone who we don't like, we disagree with, or is outside our group stumble, fall, or fail, it's tempting to celebrate that suffering together and to stir up collective emotion. That kind of bonding might feel good for a moment, but nothing that celebrates the humiliation or pain of another person builds lasting connection.

We need to be the adults we want our children to be.

Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame. It's a shield. Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it's the thing that's really preventing us from taking flight.